Tag: #dating
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Untangled 16: Another Uhaul
Another few months passed—oncology appointments, weekly blood transfusions, and court dates for him. For me, it was working more hours to cover my new credit card debt, higher utilities, and increased grocery bills. By the end of that first year, I could no longer afford my beautiful apartment. So, I found another two-bedroom apartment a…
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Untangled 15: Memphis
I want y’all to know it wasn’t all bad. If it were all bad, I wouldn’t have stayed as long as I did. Narcissistic abuse is never all bad. There is a mixture—just enough to make you doubt what’s happening. They prey on strong people for this very reason: strong people don’t believe it could…
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Untangled 9: I was mistaken
One day while we were on the phone he said his laptop started smoking. He made a big deal out of it saying that’s the laptop he works from and had no time to shop for a new one. I offered him to use my MacBook until he could get a new one. I didn’t…
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Untangled 6: Australia
Two days had passed since I left him my phone number, and he hadn’t called. I was beginning to get in my head and overthink. I needed wisdom, so I spoke with a client of mine named Jill about the situation to get an unbiased assessment. She listened to what I said and responded, “You…
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Untangled 5: was I dreaming?
One night in mid-October of 2016, I was scrolling social media while winding down for bed. I came across the picture of an old classmate from high school. I gave the picture an obligatory like and kept scrolling. I then got a message notification from that classmate asking how me and my business were doing.…
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Untangled 4: Quiet before the storm
After my deliverance I gave her a big hug of relief and walked her to the door. I can still remember the smile on my face, it was deep, sincere, and immovable. Later that day I tried to pull him back to my mind to confirm the deliverance, but I couldn’t. I had forgotten what…
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Untangled 3: Deliverance
I didn’t like her name. I didn’t like her hair. I didn’t like her teeth. She had two children, was very athletic, and pro-Black. On her page, she had more of the wedding pictures than he did, he has only the one. He seemed so happy at the wedding and reception, not gonna lie, that…
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Untangled 2: disobedience
Just like that it was over.. that was it. The man I thought I loved was now engaged. What was it about her? Why was I not given a chance to plead my case? Y’all I cried like somebody died. I cried for my perceived loss. After reading the comments I had to then make…
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Untangled 1: he was engaged
When I met my first narcissist I was a year out of a dating situationship that left me vulnerable. I thought I needed someone to get over the last someone. I didn’t want to sit in my feelings and get whole, like I knew I should. I needed to know I was wanted, the revelation…
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Untangled: introduction
In early 2024, there was a viral series on TikTok by a woman named ReesaTeesa. I saw some blurbs on my Facebook and decided to give it a listen. I hadn’t planned on listening to the entire series, but I was hooked. She went into first person detail about her Narcissistic abuse healing journey. I…
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