iamkimblakes

Tag: #breakups

  • Untangled 6: Australia

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    Two days had passed since I left him my phone number, and he hadn’t called. I was beginning to get in my head and overthink. I needed wisdom, so I spoke with a client of mine named Jill about the situation to get an unbiased assessment. She listened to what I said and responded, “You…

  • Untangled 5: was I dreaming?

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    One night in mid-October of 2016, I was scrolling social media while winding down for bed. I came across the picture of an old classmate from high school. I gave the picture an obligatory like and kept scrolling. I then got a message notification from that classmate asking how me and my business were doing.…

  • Untangled 4: Quiet before the storm

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    After my deliverance I gave her a big hug of relief and walked her to the door. I can still remember the smile on my face, it was deep, sincere, and immovable. Later that day I tried to pull him back to my mind to confirm the deliverance, but I couldn’t. I had forgotten what…

  • Untangled 3: Deliverance

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    I didn’t like her name. I didn’t like her hair. I didn’t like her teeth. She had two children, was very athletic, and pro-Black. On her page, she had more of the wedding pictures than he did, he has only the one. He seemed so happy at the wedding and reception, not gonna lie, that…

  • Untangled 2: disobedience

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    Just like that it was over.. that was it. The man I thought I loved was now engaged. What was it about her? Why was I not given a chance to plead my case? Y’all I cried like somebody died. I cried for my perceived loss. After reading the comments I had to then make…

  • Untangled 1: he was engaged

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    When I met my first narcissist I was a year out of a dating situationship that left me vulnerable. I thought I needed someone to get over the last someone. I didn’t want to sit in my feelings and get whole, like I knew I should. I needed to know I was wanted, the revelation…

  • Untangled: introduction

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    In early 2024, there was a viral series on TikTok by a woman named ReesaTeesa. I saw some blurbs on my Facebook and decided to give it a listen. I hadn’t planned on listening to the entire series, but I was hooked. She went into first person detail about her Narcissistic abuse healing journey. I…

  • Unequal

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    Don’t date anyone who has to tolerate you, force conversation or feel obligated to spend time with you. These things should be a PLEASURE not a burden. This also applies to platonic relationships, those can be narcissistic as well. You are not some orphan! If you’ve been born again, you’ve been ACCEPTED into the Beloved.…

  • No Fireworks

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    July 4, 2024 made 2 years that I’ve been emancipated from my last long term dead end relationship. A video of fireworks came up in my memories and I remembered that day and smiled. This was roughly 2hrs after I completed severed the tie. The ending wasn’t any fireworks, I simply asked him why he…

  • I had 26

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    After spending some time with my sister in Chicago I was ready to come back to my hotel room early. I was processing the info I had just received from her about my last relationship that had ended a few months back in July 2022. I didn’t wanna cry. I wanted to be brave and…