iamkimblakes

Category: relationships

  • Untangled 4: Quiet before the storm

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    After my deliverance I gave her a big hug of relief and walked her to the door. I can still remember the smile on my face, it was deep, sincere, and immovable. Later that day I tried to pull him back to my mind to confirm the deliverance, but I couldn’t. I had forgotten what…

  • Untangled 3: Deliverance

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    I didn’t like her name. I didn’t like her hair. I didn’t like her teeth. She had two children, was very athletic, and pro-Black. On her page, she had more of the wedding pictures than he did, he has only the one. He seemed so happy at the wedding and reception, not gonna lie, that…

  • Untangled 2: disobedience

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    Just like that it was over.. that was it. The man I thought I loved was now engaged. What was it about her? Why was I not given a chance to plead my case? Y’all I cried like somebody died. I cried for my perceived loss. After reading the comments I had to then make…

  • Untangled 1: he was engaged

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    When I met my first narcissist I was a year out of a dating situationship that left me vulnerable. I thought I needed someone to get over the last someone. I didn’t want to sit in my feelings and get whole, like I knew I should. I needed to know I was wanted, the revelation…

  • Untangled: introduction

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    In early 2024, there was a viral series on TikTok by a woman named ReesaTeesa. I saw some blurbs on my Facebook and decided to give it a listen. I hadn’t planned on listening to the entire series, but I was hooked. She went into first person detail about her Narcissistic abuse healing journey. I…

  • Unequal

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    Don’t date anyone who has to tolerate you, force conversation or feel obligated to spend time with you. These things should be a PLEASURE not a burden. This also applies to platonic relationships, those can be narcissistic as well. You are not some orphan! If you’ve been born again, you’ve been ACCEPTED into the Beloved.…

  • Missionary Dating

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    The person you marry should be an extension of you. For instance.. if you don’t drink, lie, cuss, steal or smoke and they do that is unlike you. What fellowship does light have with darkness anyway? How much are you willing to sit by and watch in the name of “love”? How long can you…

  • Lentil Soup

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    Just because you don’t understand your gift, doesn’t mean it’s not a gift. You never know a value of a thing till its gone. Esau DESPISED his birthright, I mean it was doing him no good at the time, right? He was toiling day to day in the field and didn’t see why it was…

  • Disingenuous

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    I can deal with a lot of people but ones who are disingenuous I cannot tolerate. I’ve met many people who smile with their lips but not with their eyes. They feign interest in your pursuits because others like you and they wanna be in agreement with them and be close to you “just in…

  • Good Men

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    Kimberly Blakes
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    People say things because that’s what they perceive..even if it’s not true. Some say there are no good men or women because in their limited experience they have not come across any. However there are folk getting together and getting married everyday. Are they marrying trash or do they have a different more optimistic perspective?…