Category: relationships
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Untangled 14: indifference
He said to me, “I didn’t want to tell you, but the cancer has spread. I started having headaches a while ago but thought it was the stress of everything happening. I have a tumor at the base of my skull the size of a walnut. They say I don’t have much longer to live.”…
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Untangled 13: Cancer
He said, “My business partner, Rick, faked his death to swindle our clients we owed work to, and now both his wife and I are being sued and Rick is nowhere to be found. My checking account and passport have been frozen so that I don’t leave the country. I’m emailing my attorney now to…
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Untangled 12: Japan
A couple of days after the ring fiasco, he told me that every Christmas he took his adult son and daughter to Japan. I thought, Oh, that’s amazing! Will you guys go this year? He said yes, but quickly added that this would be the last year. I knew it was a lie. On Christmas…
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Untangled 11: self respect
I pulled the box out, knowing it couldn’t be a proposal because he wasn’t even looking at me. My last proposal had consisted of my ex handing me a cocktail ring, saying, “You want this more than I do,” while I wrapped my hair for bed. I opened the little box, and there sat a…
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Untangled 10: Rose colored glasses
Up until that point, it never occurred to me that some 40-year-old men still cheat. My rose-colored glasses shattered as I stood there watching him text someone else. I didn’t know what to say, so I quietly backed out as if I hadn’t seen him. He came out of my bedroom and said he had…
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Untangled 9: I was mistaken
One day while we were on the phone he said his laptop started smoking. He made a big deal out of it saying that’s the laptop he works from and had no time to shop for a new one. I offered him to use my MacBook until he could get a new one. I didn’t…
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Untangled 8: not so quiet red flags
The day after our first date, he called and said he wanted us to be in a committed courtship leading to marriage. He used that verbiage because he knew I would understand it and be flattered by it. I was taken aback because I had only heard about this kind of thing happening but didn’t…
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Untangled 7: Like a teenager
Within two weeks of our first phone conversation, he said he would be in Chicago from Miami and wanted to see me. I agreed. We planned to meet that following Friday night after I got off work. We would go see a movie in Oak Park because it was close to me, and I wouldn’t…
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Untangled 6: Australia
Two days had passed since I left him my phone number, and he hadn’t called. I was beginning to get in my head and overthink. I needed wisdom, so I spoke with a client of mine named Jill about the situation to get an unbiased assessment. She listened to what I said and responded, “You…
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Untangled 5: was I dreaming?
One night in mid-October of 2016, I was scrolling social media while winding down for bed. I came across the picture of an old classmate from high school. I gave the picture an obligatory like and kept scrolling. I then got a message notification from that classmate asking how me and my business were doing.…
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