Distractions are expensive.

There was a time I could sense when a distraction was coming—and even predict how long it might stay. But each time, it lingered longer… and cost me more. I would start something amazing for the Kingdom, and the next thing you know, a man who seemed to be “my type” would slide into my inbox.

I would sweep myself off my feet by creating a version of him that didn’t even exist. I ignored the red flags and dove in headfirst. After a few months, I’d come down from the emotional high, only to find those red flags waiting for me—louder, brighter, and more undeniable than ever.

And there I was—forced to face them… and the unfinished work I had once been so passionate about.

A part of me knew it was a distraction. But if I’m being honest, another small part of me welcomed it.

I wanted to feel what it was like to have my person—to go on dates, to feel butterflies in my stomach, to experience what everyone else seemed to have. What was so wrong with that?

Well… the problem was, the way it came wasn’t from God—and I knew it.

See, anything I get outside of God’s will, I’ll have to stay outside of His will to keep.

And I can’t live without His presence.

So eventually, all of it became unbearable. Too expensive.

It cost me sleep.

It cost me peace.

It cost me money.

But worst of all—it cost me time.

And time… I can’t get back.

I say all this to say: it’s not worth it.

Get the thing the right way—God’s way.

No relationship is worth your peace.

“The blessing of the Lord makes one rich, and He adds no sorrow with it.” – Proverbs 10:22 (NKJV)

“Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.” – Proverbs 4:25–27 (NIV)

“Do not awaken love before its time.” – Song of Solomon 8:4 (ESV)

“Better is a little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble with it.” – Proverbs 15:16 (ESV)